single in the city

hmm. one thing i suspected before i came here was that nearly all my existing friends are in some form of a relationship; married, long-term, long-distance, lived-in, straight, homosexual, and/or mix of the above.

and it's true. EVERYONE is hitched in some way. i don't find it depressing or anything, and so far there has been no case of awkward social situations where i'm utterly alone in the presence of serious PDA, or bombarded with overly personal questions regarding singlehood. or is it singledom. singleness? i should know this.

turning back and looking at my asian posse. NO ONE is in a relationship except beloved B with her perfect man, who took her many many years to find. and it's almost expected that all of us should stay single so we can eventually purchase units in the spinster housing project with a hefty group discount (built by one of our many wealthy male acquaintances in construction who went on to marry outside the social circle).

studies have shown that women in asia are better off single. this is perhaps a fact. (i will not go into sociological details as to why this is true). but back here, it seems that two is the better number. between writing the last line and this one, i was out skating and having some nice beer with two couples. and while it was fine being the lone bachelorette, i couldn't help but wonder how nice it would have been if someone had been there with me, so i could take part in the "who does the cooking who does the wash" conversation. alas, it's good enough to be in fun company.

so geography does sometimes make a difference. in asia where you never run out of things to occupy/entertain you, perhaps a sig fig isn't so sig to one's social calendar and singlehood/singledom/singleness is a celebrated choice of lifestyle. but here where it's cold a lot, i see why most of them are content just to stay home with someone to hold and keep them warm. it's also climatology.

note to self: start looking for single girl friends in this city.